Blaine Explains: I'm Jealous of My Best Friend!

Dear Blaine,My best friend and I are practically sisters. She knows me better than everyone in the world, and I feel like half the time she knows what I’m going to say before I say it. I am so grateful to have her in my life and for her friendship, but sometimes I can’t keep myself from getting jealous. She’s gorgeous and has guys flocking to her 24/7, she’s automatically great at any sport she tries, she has straight As, her parents give her anything she wants, and on top of that, she’s nice and humble! How do I stop myself from my envy?Thanks,THey T,Okay, so ask any girl about their best friend, and if they are strong enough to admit it like you are, they will most likely say they are jealous, too. There were obviously qualities about your bestie that made you fall in best friend love with her -- you displayed many of them in your question -- and that makes you destined for a little bit of jealousy.But do you know what that means? There must be just as many qualities of yours that attracted your best friend to you, or there is no way that your friendship could be as brilliant as you say it is. It’s much easier to point out the greatness of other people than what's in ourselves, largely because girls somehow find it is easier to put themselves down than to find and acknowledge that we ourselves are special, awesome, and worth it. Which you are. Remember that, okay?I’m one hundred percent positive that if I went up to your bestie and asked her what she loved about you and why you are best friends, she would not be able to shut her mouth. Friendship is about taking your strengths and matching them with that of another person, and forming something beautiful and unique that could not be created on its own. Dig deep and figure out what you bring to the table. Just because it’s not staring at you in the face like your best friend’s designer jeans or jump shot does not mean it is any less spectacular or precious.